Western psychology tells us to process grief and move on. But grief is not a disorder—it is a sacred relationship. This post explores how Western models pathologize loss, why ancestral traditions offer a different way, and how we can reclaim grief as something to be tended, honored, and lived with.

Some paths call to us long before we recognize them. My journey into ancestral healing and grief work began with loss, but it was grief that revealed my purpose. Guided by Oya and my Ancestors, I stepped onto the path of deep surrender, lineage healing, and sacred remembrance. This is the story of how I arrived here.

Western psychology tells us grief is something to move past. But ancestral wisdom teaches us that grief is a relationship, not a timeline. Drawing from my dissertation research, this post explores how Ifá, Lucumí, and Indigenous traditions offer a decolonial approach to grief—one that honors mourning as a sacred, ongoing practice.

Grief is not linear. It is not something to move past—it is something we learn to move with. Like water, grief shifts, returns, and reshapes us in ways we never expect. This piece explores the fluid nature of loss, why healing is not about “getting over it,” and how we can tend to grief with ritual, ancestral connection, and deep listening.

Ancestral healing is not about looking backward—it’s about walking forward with their guidance at our back. This piece explores the power of surrender, lineage, and deep listening, tracing a journey of reconnecting with ancestral wisdom through travel, ritual, and trust in the unknown.

Transformation isn’t about chasing the next thing—it’s about staying. In a world that urges us to move forward, what if the real secret to growth was in daily death and rebirth? This post explores the power of staying with discomfort, ritual, and self-inquiry. Through the wisdom of the Tibetan Book of the Dead, yoga, and conscious embodiment, we unravel how to meet change with presence—rather than resistance. Learn how daily practices, sacred rituals, and deep self-tending create equilibrium, guiding us through life’s inevitable transitions.